Frequently Asked Questions

How Can We Become Swingers?

It's Easy, just join the site, start browsing the profiles and write to the ones that you are attracted to.

OK, so how do I start?

Determine what you (if single) or you and your partner want to do, Be prepared to discuss your needs, and your partners, be prepared for some surprises, as you may well find that the things you have talked about as pillow talk are just the start of some very exciting fantasies. Remember that you both need to feel comfortable with what you are going to do, so define behaviour boundaries for each meeting or club visit.

Go to an agreed meeting (club, couple etc.), and stay within the agreed boundaries. There have been many incidents where one partner has abandoned the agreement mid way through the evening, which is going to cause the evening to end in arguments.

Remember that at anytime, you or the other people or person can say NO. At this point activity stops. Never ignore a person who asks you to stop playing, physical contact after this point is rape.

After the event, go home and play, talk about the evening, what you liked and disliked, how it could be more fun, and what you should avoid on future meetings.

So how do I/we find someone to "Play" with?

The Internet

As you are reading this, you obviously have access to a computer and the internet. This is the quickest medium to make contact with swingers.

Find a swingers site that covers the area you live in, have a look at our links page for some of the best sites to try. Watch out for the sites that are out to rip you off - these sites usually consist of an access page to a database, and little if anything else, they are often run by attractive women (usually a porn merchant hiding behind a fake identity).

Look for Swingers sites such as Swingers in Leeds, this site has loads of information for swingers, and millions of users in dozens of countries.

The sites all have databases of swingers. some databases are very basic, holding very little in the way of information about the advertisers. Other have more complex systems based on profiles, where you can create your own profile, and then search for people who match your requirements.

Once you have fond some potential playmates, write them a message. Remember that you are not the only person looking, and probably not the only person trying to contact the people you have found. You need to check their profile to make sure that your details match what they are looking for, you will then need to sell yourselves without being arrogant, write telling them a bit about you both, and what you want to try.

You may not get a response, you may not, but dont give up, with thousands of people in the scene, you will find someone somewhere.

Contact Magazines

These adult magazines are on sale in most countries. They consist of dozens of small ads of people looking for others to play with. You read the magazine, write letters to the people you like the look of, and then send your letters to the magazine for them to forward to the advertisers.

This method works, but is slow. It can be 3 months or more before an ad is printed, and days or weeks for your letter to reach the advertiser and for them to reply to you.

Swingers Clubs and Parties

There are thousands of swingers clubs around the world, and they make an ideal venue for meeting other people. Most have a bar/relaxation area where you can meet other swingers in safety, and where should you find someone compatible you have the facilities to play.

There are several clubs listed on the menu bar of this site, or if you are travelling away check our partner site for details of over 1700 clubs around the world.

Check with the club before you go to make sure that the day you intend to visit they cater for people you could want to meet.

Clubs often have nights geared to meet the needs of different groups within the swinging scene: